In our family, we have never given out an allowance. Our children have "chores," but they're more just daily tasks that need to be done to keep the house running smoothly, such as...making the beds, vacuuming, tidying the toys, feeding the dog, set/clear the table etc...
We think children need to feel apart of a family unit and contribute to the household. This wasn't something I started thinking about early on, it's kind of something that I stumbled on out of necessity. Truth be told, as a homeschooling mom, my type A personality has been put to the test. My house isn't always clean, neat and orderly. Most often, it's messy, and very lived it. I don't have the luxury of tidying and scrubbing down the house on the weekend and have it somewhat untouched throughout the week while kids are off to school and parents at work. Our home is lived in 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week. There is no lull in the week when things remain exactly where you left them...our home is our classroom.
I came from a very tidy and super clean (almost on the border of OCD) home. My mom is Mrs. Clean. She is meticulous about cleanliness; a hard feat to live up to. Because my chosen vocation entails messes, experiments, scissors, glue etc...my house is not the picture of organized perfection.
Having said all this, I do realize that in order to run a tight ship, there must be some system to this organized chaos...cue the trumpets!!
I'm learning along the way as we tread forward on this journey. I'm ultimately learning to "let go"; let go of my expectations of a nice house, let go of the dream of a clean kitchen floor, let go of worrying that my children cannot help with big chores, like wash cabinets.
Being apart of a homeschooling family definitely has its challenges but oh boy does it have its rewards. I'm so grateful I get to spend my days with my children...even when the laundry is piled up and the toilet bowl has a ring around it. I'm positive, these are not the things my children will remember when they look back. They WILL remember their mommy reading to them, taking them to the park and laying on the bed tickling in the middle of the day.
That's how we roll around here! :)